I have always been a sucker for a good laugh, so I would have to say personality is the number one filter I use when I eliminate people from consideration as potential romantic partners. There are so many things that a guy could do that would turn me off and would count them as unattractive. The first characteristic I can think of would be someone who constantly talks about themselves and doesn’t care to get to know you. That is something I constantly deal and it drives me insane. I do agree with Duck’s theory but do think it is a bit out dated when it comes to relationships but I think that there are a lot of valid points that are brought up. I don’t think I could or have ever reconsidered a romantic partner after they failed me on the filters. As for a friendship, I would most likely be more open to letting it go past me if the filters didn’t surpass my expectations.
Friday, July 16, 2010
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I totally know what you mean about using personality as a filter. I know that I definitely pay attention to a guys personality when I am interested in becoming romantically involved with them. I can't stand when guys only talk about themselves to try and impress you. It definitely drives me nuts. When I turned 21 and started going out to bars and guys would come up to me and start babbling on about themselves I would lose interest really fast and I would walk away. The guy has to show that he is interested in you at least. If he doesn't it just seems like he is trying to impress you in hopes that he will be able to take you home that night.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you about personality being your filter. That is definitely a top filter for me as well. Personality supersedes looks because although someone may have all the physical attributes one might enjoy looking at, once they open their mouth the attractive level may plummet. And people who seem to only want to talk about themselves are difficult to deal with in both a romantic or friendship level. Of course I like to hear about my friends or boyfriends thoughts and what they have been up to, but to listen to them ramble about only themselves and not care to ask me anything about my life I find it a bit rude. The whole idea of a relationship, both friendship and romantic, is to share each other’s thoughts and ideas and give and get advice.
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